The power of giving constructive feedback
A Proud winner
About a year ago I was recruited as member of the jury in the most prominent innovation contest in Sweden Venture Cup. Yesterday I was tending the regional final in Gothenburg; a big festivity when the winners officially should receive their prices. Met a lot of nice entrepreneurial friends from along the walk of my life, amongst others Bjorn Soderbergh (Entrepreneur of the year) who have built his social ventures in Nepal for many, many years now and he is doing a great job rebuilding the country. Got a standing invitation to Kathmandu!
Anyway…what I wanted to tell you is that there was a prize I wasn´t aware of- the prize as best feedback provider of the year….and that prize went to me! Seriously, I was sooooo surprized!! Obviously, the feedbacks I have provided have been the most valuable and most appreciated by the competing idea-givers. Meaning, NOT the one who gave the most feedbacks or the one getting most credit points, but the one who gave the best value in the whole of Sweden. I am still trying to digest this fact….it is a great acknowledgement to get. Had absolutely no clue that there even was a price of this kind and even the less that there have been other people watching my feedback giving. I just love helping and the insert is relatively low: using my experience as an entrepreneur in early stages and share honestly what I see of good and bad to the teams struggling with their idea. As it was motivated, I understood that it is rare to give constructive criticism and then stand by, continue guiding out from that. Something that is completely obvious to me. How on earth could we help support each other otherwise?!
Winner of Venture Cup West 2016-2017 award of Best Feedback Provider is Josefin Lassbo, with the motivation: “With a great energy and strong commitment you have helped many competitors during this year´s round of STARTUP. Your feedback has been profound, constructive and insightful. The reactions and the thankfulness from the competitors who have been honoured with your feedback speak its clear language. Thanks to your feedback you have made a great difference to very many participants!”
Hell YES, I´m proud!
That old fear
My History v/s My Longing
I was born to do this! I have been working towards this point throughout my whole life and dedicated my whole career to this subject. Still it scares the shit out of me!
What is really so scary about standing in my full potential and being seen in it? The fear of not being good enough? The fear of being judged? The fear of failure? The fear of success? The fear of change?
Probably all of them and more…
Last week I was leading a workshop on this theme in collaboration with a dear friend of mine, Sofia. As the workshop went along, I was doing the exercises too. Didn´t really have any expectations that I would find much, since I was leading the workshop and have so much experience from personal development….HAHAHA! Hilarious!!! Did you hear that?! What fool am I? Did I actually believe that even for a second?
Well, if I did now I am grateful I was proven wrong. No, I am not immune of fear, I do not have all my shit worked out.
The theme that came clear was the fear of being seen “out there”, not being in control of what others sees and thinks about me and what I do, being judged, being a disappointment, being the fool. Looking at this fear from within a loving and supporting place deep inside, I realized this fear really springs from My old history, the roles that I play because I know them so well. They are basically carved out into my soul through experiences of fear and failure, and it keeps me from my hearts longing.
That is it! It is the only thing that stands in the way of living my dream and sharing it with the world. An old history covered in dry moss; the story that I must be this and that and do this and that before I have the right to raise my voice. That it got to be perfect before sharing. That I got to be perfect and better than everybody else before showing myself.
But the beauty of this clear seeing was that suddenly it all seemed so easily solved: What I am now is unique and enough. Where I am now is a perfect place to share. Where my longing goes is where I am heading. I am ready to fail again. And I will always be allowed to keep a room just for me…
Thank you, me.
P.S. I recommend this 1 min movie on the value of failure, with artist Marina Abromovic.